Marriage is not only a matter of two people. In addition to examining the relationship between husband and wife, it also has a sense of proportion to the elders; after having children, it is also a responsibility of the same child. Regardless of hav...
Marriage is not only a matter of two people. In addition to examining the relationship between husband and wife, it also has a sense of proportion to the elders; after having children, it is also a responsibility of the same child.
Regardless of having a full-time job or working at home, the main caregiver of the family and children is usually the mother. What if she changed to a father today?
{9A male netizen posted a post on "Dcard Wedding Board", saying that he had originally had a theory of not getting married but still entered into marriage and had children, but he regretted it now, regretted getting married and having children!
I really feel so tired in this situation...I often regret why I have to get married and why I have to have a baby? Why am I so stupid? Why did I agree with me when I decided not to marry or give birth from the beginning...
After Bao Bao was born, I told myself that I must be a genius; I worked hard to learn everything except for the care of the baby.
The other party seems to only see the errorThe child is now six months old. Over the past few days, I have learned all these nurturing skills, such as taking a bath, changing diapers, feeding milk, soaking milk, burping, coaxing to sleep, pumping medicine, brushing teeth, washing butts, feeding food, wiping lotions, washing bottles, washing bags, washing dishes... etc.
Because of work, you often go home and have all the children sleep.
The most tired part of me is that you don’t seem to think I’m tired. No matter how much I do, as long as I am a little miserable, because of that miserable, all my hard work will be ignored. You are at work, and I am at work too!
and after get off work, I have to hurry to go to the baby center to pick up the children, and then I have to buy my dinner (I almost buy it because it is inconvenient to carry a child).
The first thing I do when I get home is to help Baobao take a bath first, and after taking a shower, I will feed him food. I have to keep up with the time to eat, and then wash Baobao's bowls, spoons, water bottles and unwashed milk bottles at school. During this period, the children will definitely do things, so I have to follow the other side. After
(my mother's home) came home, and I had time to take a shower. When I took a shower, I washed my baby's dining bag, surround bag, and small square towel at school, and then accompanied me to read and play until nine o'clock or ten o'clock.
Then I helped Baobao brush his teeth and put him to bed... There were still many troubles to deal with. I basically didn’t have my own time before Baobao went to bed.
Life and various doubts are too aggrievedWhat I want to express is that as a husband and father, I do everything I can to do.
I will feel tired because you don’t think I will be tired! I often ignore everything I do because a small thing makes me feel bad about me.
. Event 1: The child caught a cold. I forgot to take medicine before going to bed. I was busy doing other things. As a result, the child fell asleep directly. I wanted to say that I would stop taking it this time. As a result, you actually said to me, "You don't want to make him catch a cold."
. Event 2: I put my clothes on the washing machine, but I fell asleep because I was sleeping with the child. When you came back, you woke me up and told me if I was washing clothes, you just silently took the clothes to go to the bathroom.
I didn't dare to continue sleeping, and I got up to relax my clothes. As a result, what I felt was your cold violence. I didn't say a word during the process of relaxing my clothes. I just fell asleep? If you call me, I will get up immediately. Is it necessary to be angry?
. Event 3: After I finished washing my child, I forgot to keep the bath towel, and I would be chanted by you because of this, "Why are you just putting the bath towel?"
. Event 4: When changing diapers, before wrapping the replaced diapers and disassembling them at the first time, you will say, "Is this the one you are next to your diapers?"
. Event 5: I sometimes drive you to and from get off work, and sometimes I don’t notice the parking location. You will say to me because it’s difficult to open, “How do I get off when you park here?”
. Event 6: One time, because the weather was hot, I ordered the drinks of micro-ice, but you were so unhappy. "Don't you know if I drink all the ice?"
. Event 7: Because I am a road ill, I rely on navigation when I leave. Sometimes I will miss it, or because I forget to talk and pay attention to turning it over, and I will also be deceived by you or feel your impatience.
. Event 8: Sometimes you collect things, and you don’t even want to ask me directly, “Where did you collect things again?”
There are so many grievances that I don’t know how to digest them.
I have had many quarrels during this period. I kept telling myself that I love you and our little baby very much. You just have a little smelly temper like a child, and you still love me.
It's just such a way of treating. As time goes by, I'm getting tired more and more. I'm already starting to doubt myself...
Man and woman leave messages: "It's so hard to see this kind of character exchange article", "I thought it was a post by my husband. After reading this article, I directly reflect on myself. Okay, I will be a little better in the future."
"You are a husband, but this is the feeling of most mothers! After the roles are exchanged, the feelings are the same, so please do your father and mother, and let them share together, because no matter who they are, they will be unbalanced.. ”
"Boys do this, are teammates, and girls are ordinary mothers," "I really want all men to read this article. Sex changes, no matter men and women, everyone is very disastrous, so nurturing is common to husband and wife, so don't just think it is the responsibility of one party."
Male netizens complain about unfairness: "Most of this article will only ask you to endure and communicate. If you change into a girl's PO article, I don't know how many teammates or "If girls posted messages today, they would have been a lot of boys. As a result, they only saw a lot of girls saying that this is their life."
The way of speaking is very importantSome netizens also suggested: "I think what you need to do is sit down and communicate seriously. Sometimes, life habits are different, and parenting will amplify the emotions, or maybe they have grievances but they don't know each other."
"Don't want everything Everyone wants to do it, try to plan a plan that both of you can handle it together or separately, so that your wife can also feel involved. After doing it, please encourage you, and don’t forget to encourage you.
If you feel uncomfortable with your wife’s mouth, you can gently say, Wife, I know what you mean, but the way you just said it has caused me a little harm. Can you change the way, for example, "You put your diapers next to you Next, will you accept it later? I still need to help you. '
You can also say 'I am a ignorant, so I will be wrong, so my fairy wife needs to help you remind you. '
It is actually proved that as a main caregiver, if you don't have the right time to let your partner share or communicate well, it will be difficult for the other party to be able to remind yourself at all times and use gentle language to encourage the other party more affirmatively.
Marriage requires business, and love is like this. Whether it is a father or mother, it is all hard!
